Finally watched this last night. I braced myself based off some of the comments on here, but DAMN some of you all are harsh arse critics!
To me neither of them came off bad and it was an open and honest examination.
Shires doesn't come off as know it all or beachy to me. Someone here mentioned her referencing her masters in writing and it's literally brought up once and not even by Isbell or Shires and it's in reference to a grammatical debate. It's also after it's stated that Isbell relies on her to be his harshest critic AND she ends up being right about the grammar.
Overall my take away is that it is very hard to be a genius and it's hard to be married to one. I think most of us would agree he is one in the song writing arena. He's married to Shires because his is not the type of personality that could be married to a push over. He talks about getting sober because he knew she wouldn't put up with his sheet. He needs someone to stand up to him when he needs it and she provides that. The biggest disagreement is when he starts to become touchy and edgy but won't admit it's because he feels pressured/worried/anxious. She calls him on it and communication breaks down. Ultimately though he admits he was wrong and they grow stronger for it. It's a testament to how hard it must be to be in the same profession as your husband/wife and even more so when you often play in each others bands.
Whatever a-hole tendencies he has he seems very aware of and willing to address. If you want to see a story about an genius that really is an ******* go watch The Last Dance. I would NOT have wanted to be Jordan's teammate, but I would absolutely be in Isbell's band.
One of the reason's I love Isbell is because of who he is. He is someone who is constantly curious, takes on new perspectives with new information, and will admit when he is wrong and will change. It ends on a great example of that with the discussion on "Cover Me Up" and how he never considered how singing about their low points might make Shires feel because he never considered things from anyone else's perspective but his own. He wasn't afraid to say "You know what, you're right."
I also love that he puts his money where his mouth is. He has talked about how being married to Shires opened his eyes to sexism in the industry. Not because of any societal pressure, but because he would see Shires deal with venues/managers/industry people that he has dealt with and literally hear their phone conversations and how differently they treated her in the same situations. After that he began to speak about female artists and promoting them. He also spoke out about encountering a number of americana singers of color and how he felt they didn't get the exposure they deserved, so a few months later when he headlined the Ryman for a week he put them on the bill and gave them exposure. I respect that.
He's also a great example of how people today argue so much over perception instead of reality. The doc ends with Covid and how all the band members feel depressed over losing what drives them (playing live). So when things started to open up Isbell implemented policies to protect his living. Then people explode "He's a woke liberal ****** requiring vaccines!!!" when that isn't true. He required a proof of vaccine OR a negative test. Nobody was asking people to get a vaccine. You don't want one? Great! Just go get a negative test, which by the way is free.
Long story short I think however you feel about him coming into this doc is probably what you'll feel about him after.