I moved here 6 months ago and can't seem to find a good man. I'm a fairly good looking girl with a good head on her shoulders. I'm class of 2002 and am looking for a man that has some intelligence and personality. All I seem to find are 6 year sophmores that attend UTPA part time. Where can I find the man of my dreams? Should I move back to Houston?

And for those of you wondering, I will not post a pic. I've been around this place long enough to know not to do that. I'm just looking for some input.

no pic = no leads

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unfortunately i was looking for larger input than that.

I'm guessing its one of the following traits:

1. Lives at home with mommy and daddy. Now, if the parents want to pay a bill here and there, slip me some extra benjamins or whatever, I'm not going to say no..bring it on. I draw the line on you live with your parents.

2. Has drama with a baby-momma. Shockingly I'm not as anti-kid as I would have you believe, but I'm really not a fan of the drama and baggage that comes along with a divorce, separation, "we were on a break", etc. Best one was a person I was seeing that gave me the nugget of info that her ex had gone through her phone and is about to call me and ask what's up. He called twenty times in the span of 1 hour. Wonderful.

3. Is not educated. I'm sorry, but if you don't have at least a degree of some sort... I will not go out with you. I'll buy you a drink, I'll stare at you and look at your funbags, but I'll hope you dont recognize my number of 867-5309 when I give it to you.

4. Works an hourly wage job. If any of you are working minimum wage jobs and are offended..to freaking bad. You should have gotten a degree (See #3). This of course excludes those making the big hourly billing bucks.. but that's pretty few and far between as it is. You want to occassionaly go out to a place with a tablecloth.. not be recognized as a dollar menu-naire at McD's.

5. Can't let go of the past. So your ex broke up with you in a crazy way..join the club. I'll bet you anything you want, I've personally got a story that trumps yours.. and sadly, most people on this board can attest to that fact. If you had more drama than mine in my past, then may God have mercy on your soul...and i'll show you where the good deals on booze are to drown your sorrows one double at a time.

Hopefully that has answered your question on why there are so few catches down here in the valley...

For a minute, when I started to read this post I thought to myself..."Do I have another identity?" cuz this sounds like me LOL

MB you are harsh...but it's true! Good luck SS...as I am in the same boat. I'd get out if I could. my advice...go back to Houston. Down here they either all have kids or are losers. At our age that is the way the cookie crumbles. I myself think I will be single forever, with no kids, no cats, but with my sanity.

I wouldn't call it harsh, so much as an accurate portrait of the Valley. Besides, I told her why its difficult to find quality people.

It may be harsh to some, but why settle for losers or someone you're just going to loathe in a few years just because you're lonely now?

Could not resist this one...first of all, the lack of good men/women are lacking everywhere not just in the valley. This may sound harsh but sooner or later you will have to settle for a guy that has "some" of the qualities you want, you Can't have it all. Ok, get back to drinking....

McAllen Broker - can you give me a listing of the daily deals on booze. I am tired of paying $3 for a beer.

strawberry - where do you go to look for guys? Lets start there.

I settle for nothing!

Chili's gives you a double for a dollar more at the bar...that's a REAL good start!

I found my SO down here and we're getting married in July! The good ones are here - just really hard to find...

MB that was priceless...

SS,
what city are you in?

I have a single brother in McAllen who's having the same problem with the ladies.
He's your age, decent looking, has a good job, a college degree, etc.

hey dead maybe it wasnt the guys faults they were LOSERS. Maybe if your parents loved you enough they would have moved to a better place where all the Mexicans were smar!

plus this person is a Sock. it smells of it.

I've got a brother in East Tx that's looking to knock a chick up.

Let me know.

I'm a whitey and I even found my bride in the Valley.

Hanging out in Edcouch-Elsa or La Villa isn't going to get you a man you are looking to take home to mami or papi, FYI, HTH.



[This message has been edited by Matsui (edited 5/19/2008 10:34p).]

you lost me at

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Where can I find the man of my dreams?

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Thank you all for the valuable information. I've gone to a few bars and obviously that is a terrible place to find a potential mate. I'm not necessarily looking for a Mr. Right but at the very least a Mr. Right Now for company and conversation sake. The one place I went to that was somewhat successful was that Food Bank singles night. I found other like minded folks that wanted to improve things in the RGV.

Anyhow, I was just looking for some reaffirmation. I just feel like I don't belong here what with so much cliqueishness of most folks here. Theres a few nice ones but for the most part new folks won't talk to me. It's mostly the creeps that don't know how not to stare at the goodies that usually want to talk to me. And can one of these speak proper english or spanish? Pick one or the other, fella, not both.


And what's a sock?

ok, i couldn't resist this one either. SS, hang in there, most of the statements on this thread are true, unfortunately. the valley is not like america, it's a different world. believe it or not, i think it has actually gotten better over the last couple of years, hard to believe it could have been worse huh?

ak, are you in the rgv now?

A lot of people I know belong to the NHPO and they have a lot of "mixers". That may be a good start for anybody wanting to meet someone. I personally have never been a fan of their organization. When they approached me to join up with them a couple of years back, all they wanted to do was booze it up and talk about how good or crappy their job was.

Don't get me wrong, anyone that knows me knows that I like to go out and have a good time..my deal is, I just don't want to mix work with party time. I'm not gonna throw you my business just because we're both brown and like to drink whiskey.

It's a wonder I'm single...

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just because we're both brown and like to drink whiskey.

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A lot of people I know belong to the NHPO and they have a lot of "mixers". That may be a good start for anybody wanting to meet someone. I personally have never been a fan of their organization. When they approached me to join up with them a couple of years back, all they wanted to do was booze it up and talk about how good or crappy their job was.

Don't get me wrong, anyone that knows me knows that I like to go out and have a good time..my deal is, I just don't want to mix work with party time. I'm not gonna throw you my business just because we're both brown and like to drink whiskey.

It's a wonder I'm single...

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bwahaha

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I'm not gonna throw you my business just because we're both brown and like to drink whiskey.

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Thats what business is all about!

Funny you say that. Let me ask you all a question. Do you believe in blindly giving business, helping out random Ags, JUST because they're Ags?

I had this situation the other night..tell me if I'm wrong..

Was with a couple of friends a week or so ago and generally having a good time. I notice one random guy hitting on one of our lady friends and she's not having it. (I think his downfall was when he couldn't remember her name after she told him)

Anyway, being the nice guy I am, I notice and start giving him a hard time, because im getting the "save me" look. I make some comment about crashing and burning and maybe he just needs to punch out (and hope he doesn't pull a Goose along the way).

He then notices my ring and says he's an Ag also...then asks me about the said lady friend but told him that he was on his own. He gets a little uppity about Ags helping Ags and that's when I sorta laid into him. I told him that while its great that he went to and graduated from A&M that does not mean I have to like you, help you or get your laid JUST because you're an Aggie.

He looked at me like I kicked his mom in the babymaker. I say I'm right.. but I'm pretty sure I could have gotten my point across nicer. Moral of the story? Buy me a drink first and maybe i'll help you next time.

Its not the vatos fault they are "special"

MB that is some funny stuff.

I think I really lucked out with my fiancee. Smart, damn good looking and is a wonderful person! Born and valley raised too!

TKE,

I swear this all happens when you guys are not around, it really does!

This is a great thread. These ladies are right, they shouldnt have to settle with a 'vato' with issues. Simple explanation for both sexes:

The good ones left the Valley / Laredo.

This applies to both places. They have both turned into grade A s***holes. There's really no reason left to stay there other than to take care of elderly parents, or if you are already married. To add to the earlier list of issues:

"Aquel se anda tronando la vieja del otro"
"Aquel le andan poniendo los cuernos"
"Aquel se cree muy chingon, etc"
"Aquel se mueve."
"Aquel se sienta 'pa miar."
"Aquel lo andan buscando los Zetas, etc"

Terrible. Just terrible.
You always feel like you have to look over your shoulder. Everyone is so mistrusting and rightly so.

I married a girl from the Valley and AK can attest, and she is quite the catch. The difference is, I met her at A&M. I wouldnt have found her in my hometown, the other s***hole mentioned above. Either way, hope you laughed and good luck.

BTW, my wife has a hot sister who's available with NO drama. AK can tell you, she's pretty hot.

AK: Code word = Casti. SSSHHHHhhhhhh.

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I think I'd like to meet MB.....

Sounds kinda creepy I'm sure coming from internet message board. He just seems to fit the criteria. Smart, latino, arrogant, and obviously wealthy.

Perhaps we could have some sort of AG party or something so's we can all meet each other?

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BTW, my wife has a hot sister who's available with NO drama. AK can tell you, she's pretty hot.

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post a foto

MB is right on the money about 2003% of the time, whoop.

TKE...I'll talke ALL that credit brother. And MB...I'll help an Aggie just because they're an Aggie. I dont have to get drunk first.

NOw if you're an Aggie trying to get me laid....HELLs YEAH!

SS- Singles' night at the Food Bank? SERIOUSLY?? NO, NO, my dear friend. Smart hot educated guys aren't at the food bank. and the NHPO group is crap. I am single too down here, but I've met a lot of guys that just were not for me, but nonetheless great guys. Just have your guy friends introduce you to their friends....OH wait..that never worked for me. They were all MAN*****S wanting the BBB's!!