Played in a 2-man scramble with a Calcutta payout for Sunday. Thru 12 holes, my partner and I sat at -3. Our playing partners sat at E or +1.

Coming off the 12th green, I saw my partner along with one of the members of the team we were paired with walking off the green together.

Waiting on the 13th tee to clear, my partner states that the other team has "agreed" to give us a score of -6 if we give them a -4. I told him at that point, that we would get to -6 by ourselves without any help and that I wasn't in.

My partner mentioned to me that I'd need to tell the other team that. Well, I didn't. Sure enough, after hole 15, we were at -5, the other team at -1. We play hole 16, and we chip up (couldn't tell how close) and all I see is the other team putting our ball back to us as we arrive up to the green in our cart. I asked the guy whether we were in the leather or not and he said, "within my leather".

I still didn't say anything. We finish out the last 2 holes and have another chip up and putt back to us on 18 as we pull up to the green.

We had a legit -5, possible -7. No guarantee that we make those two "gimme" putts. The card got filled out and turned in at -7. The team we were playing with shot -3. Their card gets filled out and turned in as -5.

So many opportunities to say things, but didn't. Not sure why. A real failure on my part. Even worse typing this all out and agan realizing all the failed opportunities to stand up for myself as an honorable person and other friends of mine in the group. I was weak and latched onto this idea that I didn't want to be known as "that guy" by a person I hardly knew.

I've taken the opportunity and explained to my wife and kids what their husband and dad did for no apparent reason. As some lesson, but it hasn't eased my conscience or continuous thinking about the things I could have done to avert this situation...

I'm at a crossroads. My conscience is kicking my tail, because I am not the person I chose to be on Sunday - even though I am because I did not intervene. The money has been paid out. The results are "final". The score of -7 didn't end up affecting the tourney or Calcutta results. Our legit -5 produces the same results (makes me not speaking up look even more stupid). The -5 did, and kept one team from getting 2nd in the Tourney (got 3rd) and another from getting 2nd in Calcutta (a few others from tying for 3rd).

I know two of the Board Members of the Golf Course really well. Should I tell on myself, or leave it be at this point and accept the reality that I am scum and move on?

Yeah, what's done is done at this point. But don't be shy to just say "nah, that doesn't work for me" in the future.

Move on.

I hate when stuff like this happens. I struggle to answer questions like that initially as it is unexpected and my mind is trying to process it and how to respond without being a dick about it lol. I can be really brash so I try to be careful. It's probably why your partner initially agreed as he just couldn't process what was asked and just said sure.

Interesting question. While I agree that you would like to see everyone be honest and play by the rules, it wouldn't surprise me if cheating is so rampant in these types of things that it's like MLB during the McGuire/Sosa/Bonds era or cycling during the Lance Armstrong era. If you're not cheating, you pretty much have no shot to compete. Puts honest people in a bind.

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Waiting on the 13th tee to clear, my partner states that the other team has "agreed" to give us a score of -6 if we give them a -4.

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Reading this again, it seems your partner was the one who initially proposed the deal, not the opposing team. Is this correct?

High Meadow?

Man...I hope not. I play in a lot of the High Meadow events and guess I have been naive enough that I thought doing 2 man events would mean little to no cheating. Its a real bummer to think this goes on during the Member/Guest tournament which is quite a bit of cash to play in.

Now when I play in a 4 man scramble tournament I just assume the winners cheat and look at it as just hanging with my friends & donating to a good cause. No point in getting worked up over people turning in 56s

Played a 2-man scramble before called superintendents revenge. Basically a fun tournament where the course is setup more difficult and the superintendents accidentally leave equipment and supplies on the course to make it harder. There is some money on the table for the top 3 teams in gross and net.

Well, on one hole the tee boxes were in front of the regular box on the downslope to make the tee shot a challenge. The other team in my group said we get 2 club lengths can move it back to where there is flat land. I said no I like the challenge hoping they would get the hint. They still backed up and played the flat area. I was a bit perplexed as the head pro announced before we got started to play where the tees were and we only get score card length relief.

We ended finishing 2nd gross score and 8th net. Guess we got out handicapped.

When money is on the line it's stealing. No other way to put it. Tough situation and I won't judge you because I wasn't there. I would like to think that I would say "I want to win legitimately just so it's that much more fun."

Keep this in mind. When 4 people know about this, it's likely to get out. Don't be the one saying "I knew it was wrong and should have said something." Just my opinion.