My step kids are about to go stay with their dadwho has shown zero signs of taking this seriously but keeping the kids from him would be "kidnapping" apparently.

My wife is pregnant and we've been taking every precaution possible but the weekends my step children will spend with their father has been causing us great anxiety. For concern of the children, us, and unborn child when they come back.

Advice?
Any lawyers with some advice?
Has anyone else been having to deal with something similar?

How is he not serious? If anything, reassure him he can make up any lost time with his kids at his choosing when everything clears up.

Memphis 7 said:

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My step kids are about to go stay with their dadwho has shown zero signs of taking this seriously but keeping the kids from him would be "kidnapping" apparently.

My wife is pregnant and we've been taking every precaution possible but the weekends my step children will spend with their father has been causing us great anxiety. For concern of the children, us, and unborn child when they come back.

Advice?
Any lawyers with some advice?
Has anyone else been having to deal with something similar?

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Have you considered contacting an ACTUAL lawyer? I would.

Otherwise, can ther kids stay with him for the duration? While not ideal, they are definitely at lower risk than your pregnant wife.

Yea, we're at the point of contacting a lawyer. We just really don't want to start THAT. I don't see any other option though.

Thanks to all the links and advice/thoughts. It's helped our conversations. We haven't come up with a plan yet, it's a tricky situation because the dad hasn't been able to live near the kids because of work, he JUST got here and he has to leave to work overseas in May for a couple of months.

Problem is the timing puts wife at risk at the hospital peak if the kids do get it.

We want them to spend time with their dad. Our situation is just so unique and tricky because he hasn't been able to spend time with them and the timing of everything is so bad.

He's a good dad, he's just not taking this virus seriously and we're pregnant. Stress!

Kudos to the dads in this thread doing what's best for their kid.

My ex-wife and I live on either side of Arizona from each other. And during this thing, I am having to forego my time with my boy. We video call several times per week, and are always sending pictures back and forth to each other.

But it is hard not being able to have him, to be able to go fishing, or seeing him goof around with his brother.

But for right now, we've all decided it's best to not be driving across the state with him.

It sucks being an adult sometimes.

I'm pretty fortunate here because my ex only lives a half mile away (first time I've ever thought that was a fortunate thing). She already worked from home. My fiance and I work from home as well, so it's pretty easy to justify having them in both households throughout the week.

My fiances kids father lives about 60 miles away. He's a completely unreliable and untrustworthy d-bag. (Doesn't pay a dime and barely sees them once or twice a month anyways) They will be staying with us until this is over. They FaceTime and text with him regularly though.

Ultimately I think anyone should be doing what is in the best interest of the children's health. I don't care how much anyone despises their ex. They need to talk and come to a mutual agreement for the kids sake.

My kid's dad lives out if state, so I know this can be tricky. But you have to start looking at alternatives.

How many weekends is he supposed to have them between now and when he leaves?

However many days that is, tell him he can have the kids for that many consecutive days in a row. If you want to be nice, let him pick the dates.

Let the kids go and try not to worry about what they do when they are with him. That's out of your control.

When the kids come back to your house, your pregnant wife will have to isolate herself from the kids. You and your wife can decide if you think it needs to be for the full two weeks.

Going back and forth every weekend is going to put too much strain on their mother, as she will have to isolate herself for the entire time. It will also make it difficult to monitor the kids for symptoms.

But, at least this way, if they are exposed to anything, it's for a finite period of time and you only have to isolate once.

Lex and I have a pretty good routine about our son. I work out in Odessa and was coming home about once a month. I'd be home a week and have him the entire time.

Now due to the virus, I'm not sure when I'll be able to leave Odessa to get back home to see my son. It's not the easiest thing in the world to explain to a five year old why Daddy isn't coming home. Luckily Lex has been doing a very good job of reassuring him that I'm not gone for good.

We face time daily sometimes more than once a day. I still get to "see" him, but the not holding him, hugging him, playing with him is killing me.

Since everyone has a lot of time on their hands anyway, why not make it a daily routine of meeting at a park? I'd imagine it's an easy place to maintain personal distance and somewhat intimate all things considered. I'm sure both sides believe the other is being unreasonable, but under these circumstances every little bit goes a long way.