Would you date a Catholic?

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JoeAggie5
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4:09p, 5/23/24
To each their own and zero harm done but son was recently told on a date that no need to continue since he's Catholic. Young lady non-denominational and just said she's "really Christian." They've met and apparently run in the same circle of friends.

Glad she was upfront and again zero damage, but I was surprised in the year 2024 that a "really Christian" person would automatically eliminate a Catholic given other potential suitors baggage.

Is that pretty normal perspective or a more extreme view of dating a Catholic?
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In reply to JoeAggie5 • 4:17p, 5/23/24
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Meh. We all have preferences. I think it'd be pretty easy to make the argument that they'd always have a pull towards the rcc and family pressure to baptize in the rcc church, thus easier to avoid at the outset.

I'd prefer Anglican first for my kids, but rcc and orthodox would definitely be higher in the pecking order than Protestant/evangelical, even if they don't consider us in communion. For evangelicals I'd imagine it's the opposite and that we're all last.

I don't view it as abnormal. I was asked by someone I've known for years if we submit to the pope (as Anglicans). There's no recognition or understanding of structure or belief because they've jettisoned it all.
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10andBOUNCE
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4:24p, 5/23/24
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After reading on this forum about some situations and marriages involving protestant and catholics, seems like the young lady probably made a good decision.
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5:37p, 5/23/24
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I married one as an agnostic and converted…. So now that I am married, nope. I won't date any other women either, so I'm not sure I'm the best data point for your question.
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6:10p, 5/23/24
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I did. It was awesome. The nearly 22 years of marriage since has been awesomer.

It's wise to be on the page as your intended spouse, especially on religious matters.
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In reply to 747Ag • 6:18p, 5/23/24
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It's wise to be on the page as your intended spouse, especially on religious matters.
This and why I have no problem with how the woman handled it.
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In reply to JoeAggie5 • 8:44p, 5/23/24
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JoeAggie5 said:
To each their own and zero harm done but son was recently told on a date that no need to continue since he's Catholic. Young lady non-denominational and just said she's "really Christian." They've met and apparently run in the same circle of friends.

Glad she was upfront and again zero damage, but I was surprised in the year 2024 that a "really Christian" person would automatically eliminate a Catholic given other potential suitors baggage.

Is that pretty normal perspective or a more extreme view of dating a Catholic?


Well she sounds bat **** crazy. Like one of those people that believe the church before the English translation of the King James Bible was false.

Probably a young earth person that believes dinosaurs are a trick by the devil.

So stupid you don't even know where to start with some people.

She's dating around because no one in her really christian church wanted her apparently.
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9:40p, 5/23/24
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If Catholic dates, marries and converts a non-Catholic then more power to them, but I 100% believe they both dodged a bullet. Glad she is up front enough to say that and hope he understands how thankful he should be. Need to have a strong foundation today more than ever and ensuring you're on the same page with religion trickles down into other things like politics, child rearing, etc.
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In reply to SoulSlaveAG2005 • 10:07p, 5/23/24
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SoulSlaveAG2005 said:
I married one as an agnostic and converted…. So now that I am married, nope. I won't date any other women either, so I'm not sure I'm the best data point for your question.
I married a Presbyterian as a Methodist and guess what I became...

They say don't date to convert but marrying seems to be a different proposition
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10:09p, 5/23/24
I would not date a Catholic, my Catholic wife of 15 years would be furious
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1:02a, 5/24/24
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I wouldn't marry an atheist. But otherwise, all Christians are the same to me. You have to be on the same page. I'm Methodist and married a Catholic, we lived together for a few years, we got married outside the church, and I have never had intentions to convert. The kids are confirmed Catholics and now none of us go to church at all.

But, we are all on the same page about religion and life so it works.

Marrying a hard core Catholic would be a miserable experience for me, we'd have very little in the way of beliefs, and neither would compliment the other, so I think in the OP, the two people are just not compatible. I wouldn't get bent out of shape over it. A life of mismatch is not the way to go.
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7:16a, 5/24/24
Dated a girl in HS whose mother told her I was going to hell because I was a Catholic. Some faith backgrounds really don't understand Catholicism and trying to explain it to them is a fools errand inside of a relationship. You have to undo years of teaching while trying to get to know someone on a romantic level. Just doesn't work.

As others have said, different denominations can work but from the experience I've seen with friends and on this board, it has to be very intentional and respectful
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8:01a, 5/24/24
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I doubt my wife would be happy about it.
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In reply to 10andBOUNCE • 10:03a, 5/24/24
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10andBOUNCE said:
After reading on this forum about some situations and marriages involving protestant and catholics, seems like the young lady probably made a good decision.
Maybe, maybe not. I've seen many where one of them is a protestant and eventually joined the Catholic Church. a Christ centered life is a Christ centered life. Most people stay with what they were brought up with and never seek the truth for themselves. I was the former but over time prayed and made the effort to explore the latter and found that everything I'd been taught about Catholics was completely wrong. It strengthened not only my faith but the faith of my whole family. Mileage may vary as we all have anecdotes....but disregarding a relationship based on assumptions seems a bit immature.

I think the bigger issue is, regardless of church affiliation, one person views themselves as a more committed Christian than the other. That will cause problems.

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In reply to CrackerJackAg • 10:08a, 5/24/24
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JoeAggie5 said:
To each their own and zero harm done but son was recently told on a date that no need to continue since he's Catholic. Young lady non-denominational and just said she's "really Christian." They've met and apparently run in the same circle of friends.

Glad she was upfront and again zero damage, but I was surprised in the year 2024 that a "really Christian" person would automatically eliminate a Catholic given other potential suitors baggage.

Is that pretty normal perspective or a more extreme view of dating a Catholic?


Well she sounds bat **** crazy. Like one of those people that believe the church before the English translation of the King James Bible was false.

Probably a young earth person that believes dinosaurs are a trick by the devil.

So stupid you don't even know where to start with some people.

She's dating around because no one in her really christian church wanted her apparently.
You bring up a good point. I've seen couples break up with one using their faith as an excuse when really they have other issues going on. If two are meant to be in God's eyes, they will figure it out.
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10:26a, 5/24/24
Mixed faith marriages aren't easy (not that any are). So if she knows that she doesn't want that, more power to her. So basically what jkag89 said.....
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Jack Boyett
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11:30a, 5/24/24
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The only thing that really bugs me about Catholics is what RAB just said. "mixed faith marriage". I was just reading Butkkers speech, he talks about his wife converting to the faith. Was she Hindu or something? It's not conversion. It's a slight variation of the exact same belief system. Don't yall Catholics think it's just a little bit arrogant when you word it this way?
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In reply to Jack Boyett • 11:40a, 5/24/24
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Jack Boyett said:
The only thing that really bugs me about Catholics is what RAB just said. "mixed faith marriage". I was just reading Butkkers speech, he talks about his wife converting to the faith. Was she Hindu or something? It's not conversion. It's a slight variation of the exact same belief system. Don't yall Catholics think it's just a little bit arrogant when you word it this way?


I'd consider it somewhat that. It's a change in how you regard baptism, the Eucharist, God's manifest presence on earth, what worship is, spiritual authority, etc. I don't think it's arrogant to say that. Heck, how you read the Bible itself changes. It's not arrogant once you get to the other side (and I say this as a non-Catholic).
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In reply to Jack Boyett • 11:56a, 5/24/24
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Jack Boyett said:
The only thing that really bugs me about Catholics is what RAB just said. "mixed faith marriage". I was just reading Butkkers speech, he talks about his wife converting to the faith. Was she Hindu or something? It's not conversion. It's a slight variation of the exact same belief system. Don't yall Catholics think it's just a little bit arrogant when you word it this way?
No, the faith isn't something trivial. Christians should take schism more seriously. John 17 makes this clear and it should be a scandal for all Christians. That doesn't mean shun one another either, but if you take your faith seriously you the distinctions matter. If they don't, it leads to lukewarmness where you see people bragging about not practicing the faith they claim to have.
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In reply to Jack Boyett • 12:47p, 5/24/24
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Jack Boyett said:
The only thing that really bugs me about Catholics is what RAB just said. "mixed faith marriage". I was just reading Butkkers speech, he talks about his wife converting to the faith. Was she Hindu or something? It's not conversion. It's a slight variation of the exact same belief system. Don't yall Catholics think it's just a little bit arrogant when you word it this way?

Inside of Christianity, non-denominational is far removed from Catholicism on everything from what is scripture, how we understand it, what's required of us to receive the beatific vision, magisterial authority, and how we should worship.

take birth control where Catholics and non-denominational would be on extreme ends of the same scale where for Catholics it's never permitted and for non-denominational Christians it's widely practiced and accepted. That one thing would be a source of tension in a marriage.

I can see if you think these are trivial things why you would say that, but we shouldn't diminish our differences as slight variations. The reformers were revolutionaries. These were radical changes.
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2:51p, 5/24/24
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Am I the only one that prayed to God for a spouse? (Said in jest)

Like Adam, God will send you the right person for the journey. We owe it to each other to make it to heaven.
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In reply to PabloSerna • 3:02p, 5/24/24
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PabloSerna said:
Am I the only one that prayed to God for a spouse? (Said in jest.)

No. Not said in jest. :-)
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In reply to 747Ag • 3:04p, 5/24/24
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She is a God-send!
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In reply to PabloSerna • 3:11p, 5/24/24
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She is a God-send!

Likewise.
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7:45p, 5/24/24
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Grew up Baptist and married catholic (met freshman year at A&M). She made it pretty clear she wasn't changing faith. I had grown up with so many misconceptions and wrong beliefs about the Catholic Church but I started going to mass with her, partly because I was never into how emotional and showy people got with their faith (typically very hypocritical), particularly non-denominational friends. So I wasn't really tied down to any church yet when we met and figured it wouldn't hurt to go to St. Mary's. The more and more I went, the more I enjoyed it.

As we got more serious, I made the decision I needed to be on the same page as my wife and didn't want to do my kids a disservice with mixed messages and eventually converted before our wedding.

Zero regrets and very active in our church, typically much more active than my cradle catholic friends which I've found to be common. The saying Protestant make the best Catholics tends to be very true in my experience.
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In reply to JoeAggie5 • 7:56p, 5/24/24
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No. I married one.

It's fun learning theology together. I think it is good when people take their faith seriously though.
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10:13p, 5/24/24
Before things get serious, it is important to get on the same page spiritually. You wouldn't want to have kids and go to different churches. This would lead to issues where 1 or both people in the relationship feel like they are more committed to God than the other. It is confusing for kids.
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11:09p, 5/25/24
I dated a Cath girl for about 9 months or so. Even though I was in a C&W band, I couldn't dance a lick. She loved Wed nights at the Hall of Fame. I even laid down 200 bucks for some snazy cowboy boots. I stepped on her toes at least twice the one night I joined her. She found someone who could dance. She seemed to like this born-again Baptist guy. Well, at least until the dancing started. Her family had some interesting paranormal things going on that weighed on her mind.
"Roswell, 1947, there was a uap (ufo) that crashed, in fact there were 2 uaps, 1 crashed and one flew away and the other one did not and was recovered by the US GOVERNMENT."
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Are A&M's core values..optional? Who has the POWER to determine that? Are certain departments exempt? Why?

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11:04a, 5/26/24
I married a Catholic. She's wonderful. I converted (on my own with no influence from her) years ago. It didn't stick and she's still very supportive of my interests in Buddhism and yoga spirituality.
Well…you sounded taller on radio.
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In reply to General Jack D. Ripper • 11:26p, 5/26/24
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Did you marry in the Church, just curious?
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In reply to PabloSerna • 2:09p, 5/27/24
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Did you marry in the Church, just curious?


Yes. We had a wedding in a Catholic Church. The catholic priest and my Anglican (grew up Anglican) priest kind of shared duties, but the Catholic priest was the MC.
Well…you sounded taller on radio.
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10:22p, 5/27/24
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As a Dad of 4 boys, 30 to 19, you should tell him the same thing I tell my boys...keep looking!

There are plenty of good Catholic girls out there...

If you want to catch a tarpon, you aren't going to fish in the Brazos River. Go to Church, get involved with your Faith.

Mixed marriages are a pain in the butt...kinda like marrying a t-sip...
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11:01a, 5/28/24
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I swear, ive never encountered anyone that has a problem with catholics outside of the internet.
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In reply to Ragnar Danneskjoldd • 12:22p, 5/28/24
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most people will be non-confrontational in person; online folks are almost hyper-confrontational
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In reply to canadianAg • 1:06p, 5/28/24
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canadianAg said:
Grew up Baptist and married catholic (met freshman year at A&M). She made it pretty clear she wasn't changing faith. I had grown up with so many misconceptions and wrong beliefs about the Catholic Church but I started going to mass with her, partly because I was never into how emotional and showy people got with their faith (typically very hypocritical), particularly non-denominational friends. So I wasn't really tied down to any church yet when we met and figured it wouldn't hurt to go to St. Mary's. The more and more I went, the more I enjoyed it.

As we got more serious, I made the decision I needed to be on the same page as my wife and didn't want to do my kids a disservice with mixed messages and eventually converted before our wedding.

Zero regrets and very active in our church, typically much more active than my cradle catholic friends which I've found to be common. The saying Protestant make the best Catholics tends to be very true in my experience.
Ditto on the same experience and sentiments
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