ABattJudd said:
These kinds of arguments really get people tripped up dogmatically, but I don't think they're of tremendous benefit.
I was raised in the west Texas Church of Christ. Extremely conservative views on everything from baptism to pianos. My father was a preacher and was fired from a couple churches for focusing his teachings on grace rather than specific works requirements.
My grandmother was convinced that the criminal on the cross was not actually saved because he hadn't been baptized, despite Jesus specifically saying that he'd be with him in paradise.
Now, if someone claims to become a Christian but REFUSES to get baptized, I think that's indicative of an issue of the heart/spirit where one could question their true conversion (like someone telling a longtime girlfriend they'll love them forever but refusing to get married).
Church of Christ member here as well.
I love this story from Acts
Acts 8:
[26] Now an angel of the Lord said to Philip, "Rise and go toward the south to the road that goes down from Jerusalem to Gaza." This is a desert place.
[27] And he rose and went. And there was an Ethiopian, a eunuch, a court official of Candace, queen of the Ethiopians, who was in charge of all her treasure. He had come to Jerusalem to worship
[28] and was returning, seated in his chariot, and he was reading the prophet Isaiah.
[29] And the Spirit said to Philip, "Go over and join this chariot."
[30] So Philip ran to him and heard him reading Isaiah the prophet and asked, "Do you understand what you are reading?" [31] And he said, "How can I, unless someone guides me?" And he invited Philip to come up and sit with him.
[32] Now the passage of the Scripture that he was reading was this: "Like a sheep he was led to the slaughter and like a lamb before its shearer is silent, so he opens not his mouth.
[33] In his humiliation justice was denied him. Who can describe his generation? For his life is taken away from the earth."
[34] And the eunuch said to Philip, "About whom, I ask you, does the prophet say this, about himself or about someone else?"
[35] Then Philip opened his mouth, and beginning with this Scripture he told him the good news about Jesus.
[36] And as they were going along the road they came to some water, and the eunuch said, "See, here is water! What prevents me from being baptized?"
[38] And he commanded the chariot to stop, and they both went down into the water, Philip and the eunuch, and he baptized him.
[39] And when they came up out of the water, the Spirit of the Lord carried Philip away, and the eunuch saw him no more, and went on his way rejoicing.
https://bible.com/bible/59/act.8.26-39.ESV