One Louder said:
And you know that the family member(s) that crashed out were completely blindsided by both the judge's lead up to the sentence because they couldn't follow her logic, and they just automatically expect probation for these things regardless, especially from a woman judge.
But above all, the crash out demonstrates exactly why this young man thought he could do what he wanted without consequence.
Yep.
I heard a lecture from a former convict once. He spoke about how much his parents tried to help him; how he ignored their efforts, and hid his actions from them.
When he was sentenced, his mom got to speak to him for a few minutes. She told him (paraphrasing), 'You shouldn't be surprised. Everyone in your life tried to prevent this. There is a price to pay for your actions, and the bill has come due. You can choose to keep going down a bad path, or you can take this time in prison to change who you are. But you have to choose right this second, and not waiver...or get used to this being your new life'
He said the comment about the 'bill coming due' completely changed who he was, and he spent the next several years reforming himself behind bards. He got out and is a very productive person now.
A buddy of mine had a bad upbringing, before he was adopted as a teenager. At age 17, he ended up in prison for 9 years. Now?...He's one of the best people I know. A lot of that has to do with the (new) family he had, holding him accountable.
Parents can't always prevent their kids from making horrible mistakes. But they can control if they hold their kids accountable or not.
Instead, some of them simply get upset at the justified consequences, and ignore the actions that caused them.
