Receiving materials isn't being accepted. Receiving materials isn't saying you are qualified to be accepted. Mailers and marketing materials get students to "feel" like they are wanted and get students to apply whom the university will not ever accept. It's a lucrative revenue stream.
Your daughter is receiving all of this recruiting material because she checked the box on her SAT that she wished to receive solicitations from colleges/universities. Schools didn't ask her high school for her info or College Board for her scores without her asking to be sent information.
The out of state tuition one will pay is also a great plus for them.
Top students from Texas do go off to other places in state and out of state, than A&M but that in no way dilutes the students that do attend A&M. They do recruit top students and they have many scholarships they offer them. These are national merit kids and valedictorians and other very top students. They don't recruit good and average students. Plenty of them apply on their own. Last year was like 27,000 review admit applications. There are all types of scholarships set aside for various types of students but as for merit awards, an applicant is tippy top, not great, good or average.
I was national merit commended and top 8% of my class. I got a ridiculous amount of mailers. Not because they really wanted me. It is because I hit all the points on there radar, as did millions of students. No one called me up or visited me to express REAL interest. I got computer generated emails and postcards, just like your daughter.
I was denied my first choice school out of state for engineering. Offered me any major other than STEM. I was disappointed but I didn't go around blaming the school, their lack of recruitment of me or others, or the wait I had to endure before I received the decision. A&M accepted me for engineering and offered me no scholarship or funds to offset the cost of tuition. I was offered full ride scholarships at UT Arlington for engineering. I chose A&M. The school that rejected me for the major is also competitive for admissions and I just wasn't as competitive as others that admissions cycle. That doesn't mean I am not smart, capable, or that they were disrespecting me in the slightest. I wan't good enough compared to the competition. That is life. I didn't take it personal.
Being a second generation Aggie, I can sense that you are disappointed that your daughter may not be generation 3 and your feelings are hurt because your daughter isn't a top 10% auto and wasn't competitive enough to make academic admit. You take it personally that they have not recruited her and being an average student, she may break that legacy. Mark my words, she feels it and is afraid to disappoint you and break that legacy. So it is understandable that you direct that disappointment onto an inanimate object that is the university instead of her.
I am sure she is a smart and capable kid and she could end up being admitted after all or receive a pathway admission offer. The review process is competitive and it seems there are limited spots for them. Good luck to her. And if for some reason she isn't offered admissions, it isn't personal. It is that competition was tough and if she really wants to be an Aggie, there is more than one way. It doesn't end at freshman admission.
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