personally, it makes no sense to me to care about what happens after you sell a house.

as a seller nothing is forcing you to accept his offer and you are free to decline it, but at a point your wife will have to accept the reality of what selling something means.

with special or classic cars, it's not unusual to want to sell to someone who you at least feel will respect and take care of it.

It's an inanimate object. Hell no. And for all you know, it could be in someone else's hands before you know it.

I was discussing the potential of selling our house with my wife last week and she started crying. Some people get emotionally attached to houses. It doesn't really make sense in my brain but it happens.

It's understandable. My wife says "it sucks but my home is where my family is, we can have a home anywhere." I am exactly the same way as your wife. I still drive a 2005 Super Duty and a 2002 F150 because I can't bear to sell or upgrade them. Too much blood and sweat. As such, I put a lot of work and blood into our last ranch. When we decided to sell it, I used a friend of ours that helped us buy it a decade earlier. Since it was out in the country, she reduced her commission and I agreed to do the showings and discuss details and contracts (I'm a licensed Realtor). I showed it 4 times before we found a "perfect" buyer. All the while I was showing it, I had to listen to potential buyers talk about how they would change this and change that. This didn't work that didn't work. That bush needs to go….it was hard and I internally took offense to it. That's exactly why I wanted someone else to handle the transaction. I judged people as soon as they pulled up…"yeah, this dude can't afford this. Why is he here?.

Ultimately we got a homeschool family that had 7 kids, asked for no concessions and we ended up with twice what we paid for it.

It was the best scenario and while I'm bummed about selling it, I get your wife's feelings over it. It's normal for a lot of people. For others, it's an emotionless transaction. It was our first home and that made it hard.

Closing was during covid so all remote. We executed the documents kn our front wraparound porch, handed over the keys, and left and never returned. It's actually hard just typing this out. So, I get it.

Our first dogs as a married couple are buried under the tree in the front yard. Our cats, too. My garden I broke with my hands and where my babies planted their first tomato plant….the chicken coop where they collected their first eggs…all of it.

But, we took the money, started a business and moved to a much bigger ranch where my now older kids train rescue horses and compete. They are doing what they love. I still Miss the old one though and think about it often.

Try to keep in mind that you aren't selling for giggles. You have a reason and that reason is likely geared around betterment of your life in some way. Focus on that and make that count.

The only thing I might consider is if I was very good friends with my neighbors and I got some indication that the potential buyer was a major nuisance or involved in unsavory activities. Other than that type of situation (which is really about the friends, not the home), my house goes to the highest bidder.

FunnyFarm14 said:

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I could care less.

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You could? So you care a little bit?

Flip the roles... Do you want the seller of the house you're looking to buy to judge YOU?

I had neighbors ***** at us post sale because the buyers were jackasses. Not my damn problem. Neighbors could have bought my house if they were so concerned. Anyway, I guess what I'm trying to say is I don't give a *****

Caring about who you sell to cost the previous owner of our house 6 months and almost $50k. It was her dream house, and she was only selling due to a divorce. Nice house, and well-maintained, but with awful paint and fixture choices. She would show up at showings, ostensibly to show off her special touches to the house, but in reality to hear if the prospective buyers wanted to change things. Then she would refuse offers from those buyers that did. Our realtor found out about it and warned us. When she showed up, we complimented her on her paint and her home and made no mention of any changes. She accepted our offer the next day, for $46k below her asking price. My wife had almost the entire interior repainted before I got back from a class at Fort Leonard Wood that I was in when we moved.