SteveBott said:
Yea I'd talk to current residents and value their opinions more then a third party bystander.
These are my parent's opinions and they spent almost 20 years there before leaving. I'm telling you what your kids will see and experience, since you should consider that if you have any. Friendships don't have to be superficial but change quite naturally because crises are different there; the next stage of life after medical issues and death is care, not independence.
I have one parent with dementia right now. The others just moved out of sun city two years ago because I'm the only kid who will take care of them.
Plan for it now. You won't keep your doctors and friends when your kids have to help you manage life from two hours away, it'll be another move. Even if it's in town, it'll be closer to them.
Edit: I've heard too many retirees talk about how they intend to spend everything they have on themselves not to see how it changes things. If you want to cruise all year, when your friends can't go for whatever reason, you'll keep doing it and move on. Sorry you couldn't make it to canasta, maybe we'll see you next time. So and so's husband died at they left. The time you spend with people in person is always more meaningful that texting and social media. That's my point.