My son and military choices

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Runner45
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My son is seriously considering enlisting in the Army or Marine Corps. A little background, he was accepted into A&M from out of state and ended up choosing BYU and hated it. We pulled him out in the beginning of the second semester. He had a GPA below 2.0. We have encouraged him to go to community college and then apply again at A&M. He says he isn't "engaged" with college right now and wants to enlist as an infantryman then go to A&M. The kid is an Eagle Scout and had a three year ROTC scholarship. He took Russian in high school but doesn't want linguists in the military. All he wants to do is infantry. My wife and I are worried but I also know we need to let go. Any advice on how to handle this ?


JABQ04
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I'm not the expert by any means, but enlisting isn't necessarily a bad thing. I served 8 years of active duty as an enlisted 13B (Field Artilleryman). He can learn a lot of things and gain a lot of maturity by serving a few years first then going back to school. I'm sure the commandant can add a ton of information to this, but the Veterans Programs at A&M are very good and there is the Veteran's only outfit.

I don't know if you have seen the other post about a mans son and his options for joining the Marine Corps but a lot of good info is on there about a similar situation. All in all its your sons choice, all you can do is help him get any and all information so he can decide what is best for him. Good luck with everything.
Ulysses90
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I concur with JABQ04. Enlisting in the military is a great experience that matures and focuses many smart young men and women who just aren't sure what they want to do for a career but need some regimentation. The Post 9-11 GI Bill is also a deal that's too good to last. Your son will have earned that benefit when he completes his enlistment and he will be very careful how he spends it.

I had a friend who was ROTC scholarship at A&M and successfully completed OCS after his junior year before making some really bad decisions (like not getting out of bed to attend class) his senior year. He request to drop out and enlist to pay back the government for the scholarship benefits he's accepted for three years. After completing his enlistment he returned to A&M and re-took several classes and graduated. There a re plenty of stories such as his,
VictorCharlie
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Have someone in talk to him about garrison Army life. I enlisted in 2004 as an 11B did two deployments doing all my hooah stuff then reclassed to MI and am now a Warrant Officer. I wouldn't trade my infantry time for anything but I also spent most of it roaming the streets of Baghdad and humping the hills of Ghazni province. You never know where the world will be with things like ISIS, Syria, Ukraine etc but he could easily enlist as a 11B and not deploy. That means a lot of picking weeds in the motor pool and embracing the suck at JRTC. The Army will help him in discipline, responsibility and character but ultimately it will get its pound of flesh from him. If he really wants to enlist I'd counsel him on looking at some specialities that have civilian application. I'm not sure what recruiters are offering him but he could pick from a lot of MOS and pair that with a Ranger slot to be damn near guaranteed of a deployment or two. I know a lot of MI guys that were essentially just another trigger puller while they were in Regiment.
Warrior 66
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If he'd like to talk to someone here at A&M about options for him after he attends Junior College and gets his grades up, I'd be happy to help. Our Army ROTC team here is top notch, and would be willing to talk to him also, and at least lay out what his options are.

We DO have a lot of veterans here at A&M, many of whom did one enlistment, got out, and are now in college using their Montgomery GI Bill benefits and getting a good college education. Some are in the Corps, in our Veterans outfit, Delta Company. Again, we can talk those options with him too, assuming he'd like to do so. COL(R) Jerry Smith runs our Veterans Support Officer here on campus, and I can help arrange a meeting with him to talk to him about life AFTER the Army (assuming he decides to enlist) as a college student at Texas A&M if he'd like. He is an awesome asset to Texas A&M and to our veterans who are attending Texas A&M.

On a personal note, I have a son who is a CPT in the Army at Ft Hood, and has deployed 3 times (1 Iraq, 2 Afghanistan) in the 8 years that he's been in the Army. He graduated from A&M-Corpus Christi, commissioned, and has done well as an Army officer. My oldest son enlisted in the Army. He was not "engaged" with college, wanted no part of it, and enlisted as an 11B Infantryman instead (as an Artillery officer that bothered me to no end, but it was what he wanted, and I wasn't going to argue with him!). It was EXACTLY what he needed. He learned discipline, leadership, commitment, teamwork, and what it meant to be a valued member of an organization committed to something greater than himself. He also matured a LOT in the Army, and it made him a better man as result of that experience. He is out of the Army now, and is living and working in Austin and doing well.

I tell you that just so you understand that everyone is different, and what works for one doesn't necessarily work for the other. Each of my sons is a different person, and each has their own motivation and desires for their future. We are willing to talk to your son, find out exactly what he wants to do, discuss his options with him, and then allow him to make an informed decision that works best for HIM, because ultimately HE will have to live with his decision.

Please contact me if you'd like him to come and talk to our Army ROTC team and/or Veterans Support Office here about options. My e-mail is: jramirez@corps.tamu.edu. Happy to help in any way I can.

Best of luck to you both. Gig 'em!
FILO505
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Commandant nailed it, but I'm happy to add any assistance from a current "went to college, wasn't engaged, enlisted 11B, did 12 active, got out and went to A&M" guy. Was in D Co. I can tell you our Veterans services is amazing. I was emailing application documents while deployed. They did such a great job working with me.
Runner45
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The responses here have helped a great deal. It's good to hear that others have been through something similar. All we are getting locally is what a mistake infantry enlisted would be. The offers to talk to me or my son are appreciated and also shows why Texas A&M is special. God bless the Aggie spirit. As a father you want the best for your kid but this might the time to let go and get out of the way. That's hard for me. I had certain plans and dreams for him but it's his life not mine. I'm grateful for the Commandant's counsel.
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