I let 2 twelve year olds watch The Warriors.

I saw it at that age. Pure awesomeness.

I'd be livid, OP.

Watched the Netflix movie Rim of the World and I think it is geared a pre-teens but it was raunchy. These kids were supposed to be 12/13 and it was full of bad language, sex jokes, and racists comments. Probably would have been rated R but since it was TV it was TV-14. I'm pretty open minded but I was pretty shocked.

Not sure what the proper age is, but I can say with certainty and firsthand experience, you shouldn't take a 7 year old to see The Shining in the theater. My dad did that to me in 1980. Didn't sleep for a week.

I saw my first rated R movies at 8. Executive Decision was fine, The Rock melted faces off. William Wallace dropping an iron ball on a dude's skull was pretty gnarly.

It was a few years later, but the first unexpectedly-disturbing moment from an R movie was Eraser. James Cromwell puts a gun in his mouth and pulls the trigger. I wasn't ready for that ****.

My folks brought me to Arachnaphobia when I was 6 because they thought it was a comedy... It was not. I really dislike spiders. xD

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Supposed to be seeing Godzilla (classified action / adventure). Instead saw Brightburn (classified horror).

Age 14.

(For reference: IMDB Parents Guide vs Godzilla)

I could see how a parent might see little difference between the two. That said, R is a line in the sand that we discuss at our house. Over the next few years I expect he and I will sit down and watch a few that tell a good story (A Few Good Men, Saving Private Ryan, Gladiator, etc). But I would not even consider doing that with one of his friends without the consent of their parents.

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14 is old enough to see R rated movies, and your kid sees them all the time without you knowing. Hope this helps.

Other parents are stupid for not asking though.

I would be ok with my 14 year old seeing an R rated movie.

I had already seen every teen raunchy sex comedy from the early 1980s by then...

Hardbodies
Porkys
Sprng Break
Last American Virgin
Fast Times
Revenge of the Nerds


just to name a few of the better ones and many many more.

That being said, do I really want him to be a perv like me?

On second thought..hold off on R rated movies.

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if my kids watch an R movie I want them to either watch it with me or sneak around and watch it alone or with friends like I did. Not with some other 'adult' in a desperate attempt to be the cool parent.

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Exactly. Don't do questionable things with other people's kids.

I wouldn't judge the parents too harshly without making a friendly phone call to find out more.

By that age, my friends and I were pretty proficient liars about what we were going to see. Once, a friend conned his naive dad into taking us to go see a new Steven Segal movie w/o doing any research. Of course it was full of violence and tiddies. When we got home, the mom asked how the movie was. The dad said, "It was AWFUL. He lied about what kind of movie it was, and that's not happening again."

Give them a chance. Might be their first time dealing with clever teenagers. Or they might have different standards, but you won't know without a calm and friendly conversation.

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Depends on the movie.

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This was my reaction, as well, but I also think that's the parent's choice to make. Obviously a movie rated R because of language is not the same as violence or sex, but I want to make that decision and not leave it to someone else's parents.

For instance, if I had a 14 year old I would let them watch Superbad with no issues, but maybe not something like The Departed. Again, though, I would want to make that decision.

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For instance, if I had a 14 year old I would let them watch Superbad with no issues, but maybe not something like The Departed.

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So you would be more concerned that they might go shooting everyone, but not getting fake IDs and having crazy house parties and screwing anything that moves?

Pretty sure I was maybe 10 or younger when I watched Slumber Party Massacre (half-dressed chicks at a slumber party get killed via electric drill) at a friend's house. Also saw The Exterminator and many other R rated movies at this kid's house during sleepovers. This kid's parents were the ones renting these VHS tapes for us and hell no I never told my parents about them.

You're right. Now that I think about the things my friends talked about at 12-13.

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Depends on the movie.

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This was my reaction, as well, but I also think that's the parent's choice to make. Obviously a movie rated R because of language is not the same as violence or sex, but I want to make that decision and not leave it to someone else's parents.

For instance, if I had a 14 year old I would let them watch Superbad with no issues, but maybe not something like The Departed. Again, though, I would want to make that decision.

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Also depends on the parent.

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I'd be livid, OP.

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At least the parent didn't show them The Last Jedi.

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yes, because watching an r rated movie and doing drugs and alcohol are the same thing.

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Anyone remember what Dazed and Confused was rated? That probably set the tone for my slacker lifestyle.

Rated R

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The google machine says Brightburn is a horror superhero movie. I guess I just don't see the big deal, especially since we are taking about a teenager and not a little kid, JMO. Not like they took him to a screening of Debbie Does Dallas.

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Wait. Debbie Does Dallas is screening??!! Locally?

I waited until my boys were 14 before I introduced them to Zappa's Broken Hearts...

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1. your kids are already exposed to lots of swearing at school.

2. if they are old enough to get sex ed in school, they are old enough to see actors having fake sex.

3. as far as horror and gory movies go.. the world is a harsh place,. better they rip that bandaid off asap.

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I mean, do what you want with your own kids, but I tend to defer to experts and the many peer reviewed studies proving that exposure to violence and sex in media at a young age is detrimental to psychological health.

No, they can't be shielded from everything, short of keeping them locked in the house. But it's a parent's responsibility to do the best that they can to keep their children safe physically and mentally. I certainly wouldn't let my child spend time with friends whose parents don't share that point of view.

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The kids in this scenario aren't "young"

Not cool for a parent to make that decision for someone else's kid.

I would not take someone's kid to an R rated movie without asking unless they were 17. I would give my kids permission to watch an R rated movie at about 13 or 14, but I guess it always depends on the movie. Some R's are much worse than others.

I let my 10 year old watch The Rim of the World on Netflix and it was a lot more sex and language stuff than I was expecting. I can't even remember what it was but I got some questions from my 10 year old wanting to know what "???" meant and I did not feel like giving an answer.