bonfarr said:

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YouBet said:

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Have yall tried the General board? I can attest to the fact that you can meet women on there. At least you could 20 years ago.

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I have never posted on the GB but wouldn't dating posters expose you to potential ridicule on the forum? I remember Taylor Hamm always being accused of being a Minute Man.

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Yeah, I guess but like CDub said it was a different world back then. I don't know if this still happens, but we had get togethers and HHs back then so a-lot of us knew one another IRL. FTR, I wasn't hoaring around on it. I had a serious GF from it for a while.

It was a great forum to meet people back then. All Aggies around the same age. I don't know what that board is like these days as I look at it about once a year.

Deerdude said:

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Hogties said:

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Whatever happened to finding a woman in the real world? Church, the gym, a bar?

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There are no more good English singing dancing bars in America.

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I beg to differ, the Dirty Bourbon in ABQ is a Great! dance hall.

Now, I'm in my early 60's and divorced, but really don't have any interest in dating, but love to dance and have fun. Started going for free intro lessons there about 2 years ago, and now am fairly decent at it.
Since all I am interested in is dancing, I'll ask women from their 20's to the 70's to dance, and get a fairly high acceptance rate, oh around 70%.

Anyway, the Dirty Bourbon [aka DB] is still a great place to partner dance as a single person, even for an old feller like me.

93MarineHorn said:

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I'm always disappointed that the women of F16 avoid this type of thread every time it's brought up. C'mon ladies, weigh in here.

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They are smarter than we are.

Burdizzo said:

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Personally, I blame line dancing.

When people at the dance halls didn't have to go out on a limb and ask someone else to dance, I knew things were going downhill. Yeah, I know we no longer live in a world of two-stepping and George Strait and that wasn't everyone's world to begin with, but it was indicative of the trend.

I miss Gramm's and The Texas Hall of Fame.

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Like I posted above, the Dirty Bourbon in ABQ is mostly social partner dancing and loads of fun.
They're open Thu-Sat nites, I generally go 2x a month, the 2nd and 4th weekends when they have the free Friday nite lessons.
Sure wish I had not been so shy in college, could have been dancing for much longer.

93MarineHorn said:

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I'm always disappointed that the women of F16 avoid this type of thread every time it's brought up. C'mon ladies, weigh in here.

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insulator_king said:

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Deerdude said:

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Hogties said:

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Whatever happened to finding a woman in the real world? Church, the gym, a bar?

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There are no more good English singing dancing bars in America.

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I beg to differ, the Dirty Bourbon in ABQ is a Great! dance hall.

Now, I'm in my early 60's and divorced, but really don't have any interest in dating, but love to dance and have fun. Started going for free intro lessons there about 2 years ago, and now am fairly decent at it.
Since all I am interested in is dancing, I'll ask women from their 20's to the 70's to dance, and get a fairly high acceptance rate, oh around 70%.

Anyway, the Dirty Bourbon [aka DB] is still a great place to partner dance as a single person, even for an old feller like me.

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I'm mid 60's and spent early dating days in San Antonio with Randy's Rodeo at least Thursday night then Golden Stallion on Friday and Saturday. Sometimes venturing out to Bandera or Luckenback or other surrounding dance halls. Later branched out to SPJST chasing and even HOF.
The availability of these fun and fight venues is much less than back in the day.

I feel like we've had this thread a few times before.

Separated in '14. Ex got a boyfriend in '15, so I reluctantly entered the dating pool while she dragged out the divorce. At the time, I lived in a college town so that was fun. Dated a few of my former divorce clients (their idea) but made a good call and passed on those crazy ladies. Had a few flings with girls way too young (college town). Still kinda generally angry at all women at the time.

Moved to Midtown ATL after the divorce was finalized to focus on women closer to my age and get out of being a single middle-aged dude in a small college town. Started the dating apps, and I could pull from anywhere in the Atlanta area. I am 5"10" (the minimum "ok" height), pretty fit and not George Clooney but ok. Lawyer, no kids, etc... As other guys posted, it is like shooting fish in a barrel. A few weekends I had dates both Friday and Saturday. One weekend F, Sa, and Su. Went to Grand Cayman and spoofed my Android phone before the trip to do the dating app there a couple days before. Got some dates there and ended up dating an Orlando chick I met there for a while. Fun for a while but there are some crazy women out there, and some were freaky-deaky. Not the type you take home to momma, as Rick James would say. One wanted to punch (closed fist) during ... it. Weirdo. Needs a psychiatrist. One took me to a ATL strip club and then she told me she used to be a stripper there. Again, fun, but you ain't meeting momma.

Yada, yada, yada... took one lady 5 years my junior to a Young the Giant concert at the House of Blues and knew immediately she was it. Shut down the online dating. Dated for eight years (mostly her delay) and got married 12/31/25 (my accountant pushing her over the edge with the almost 5 figures we'd save in taxes). My little tax deduction.

I don't think you have to be "Chad" but if you are moderately decent looking, fit, appear stable, good job, no kids a plus, you are going to do fine. And don't post fishing pics or have your red MAGA hat on. (ha- sorry, hardcore MAGA is a no-go for a lot of ladies.) She's a conservative and Trump voter but not MAGA.

Dating apps are fun, but they get old very quickly. I don't ever want to have to do that again.

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93MarineHorn said:

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I'm always disappointed that the women of F16 avoid this type of thread every time it's brought up. C'mon ladies, weigh in here.

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I learned you need to focus on their clavicles. The fat ones only post head shots or where they are standing behind something, but usually you'll see a clavicle shot - if you can see bones, you are good to go.

HoustonAggie11 said:

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Most American women are fat, Ill pass.

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Single biggest problem of many problems

Hogties said:

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Whatever happened to finding a woman in the real world? Church, the gym, a bar?

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This. Met my wife at an indoor track meet where she'd gone to see an ex-boyfriend who had gone to and was participating for a different college. Mind you, that was 56 years ago.

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bonfarr said:

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This has been known for years. My BIL lived through this after his divorce and has largely given up

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Overseas wives are the key, and they are not entitled

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You can't let them mingle with American women.

NSFW - It's Eddie Murphy - Language! (1:05 mark)

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It isn't just the women filtering for 6' well built handsome men with salaries over $150 k a year that caused him to give up. His preferred dating age range was 38-50 and he was shocked at how many emotionally unbalanced women he encountered. He told me some crazy stories.

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Nearly all women who are single at that age are either divorcees, widows, crazy, on the autism spectrum or have unjustifiably high standards. And because most "normal" women in that age range are widows or divorcees that get with new partners fairly quickly, that leaves the rest for the habitual dating pool. It then stands to reason any man dating in that age range is gonna encounter a ton of crazy.

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When the online dating generation gets older:

CarbonDating.com

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Ha Ha. As an old Tard that did a lot of online dating 20 years ago, all I can say is thank God I found a good woman. This culture today is toxic.

People should try going back to church. Its certainly a lot better than whats going on online these days.

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The bi-monthly thread complaining about how only hot guys can get laid has re-appeared right on schedule. Obviously, an environment like online dating apps will strongly favor good looking guys. But if you go out to a bar, restaurant, concert or any other social venue you can meet women. There are so many things a man can do, short of growing taller, that will vastly enhance his chances of landing a woman that is similar to him in looks.

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it's called having a net worth of several million dollars

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Or a roll of silver dollars in your front pants pocket.

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Hit the gym for 6 months, get a good haircut, teeth whitened and fresh clothes (it's unbelievable how much this matters to women). Do that and act with some confidence and humor and you'll be just fine unless you're some kind of troll.

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This is just basic personal hygiene. Is it really that unbelievable that women prefer men that take care of themselves over those who don't?

93MarineHorn said:

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I'm always disappointed that the women of F16 avoid this type of thread every time it's brought up. C'mon ladies, weigh in here.

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Using terms like "chads" and "females" unironically in an OP will usually result in women giving it a pass.

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HoustonAggie11 said:

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Most American women are fat, Ill pass.

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Single biggest problem of many problems

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Depends on the demographic

A majority of AA and Hispanic women are obese across all adult age ranges, but only about a third of white women and less than a fifth of East Asian women in America are. If you look at just the ages most relevant to this discussion (<50) it's even lower for those groups.

Most women with unrealistic standards aren't morbidly obese. They just don't have the looks or personality to justify the type of man they look for. And, most importantly, they look for those men to the exclusion of all others. They don't even allow for the possibility of getting with men who don't meet their predetermined metrics.

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I think it's different for people in college because there are opportunities to meet people organically. As a dad of three with a career in a male dominated industry and hobbies considered largely male oriented as well, I can tell you there are not a lot of opportunities to meet women.

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This is so true! I didn't have a successful love life when I was in college, but I never once thought of asking where to meet girls. They were around all the time, in my co-ed dorm, and in my classes (well, the ones that weren't CPSC or ELEN).

The post-college world is so different, thanks to having to spend so much time at work (in an overwhelmingly male department) and having a lack of "third places".

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Whatever happened to finding a woman in the real world? Church, the gym, a bar?

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Church is the absolute worst.

The girls and women would only look for the "perfect" men because they have been raised under the delusion that God had already selected their husband and he will be "perfect for her." Often they'll use the stupid phrase "waiting for my Boaz" which really meant waiting for a rich guy. If I had a $ for every time I heard that, I'd be Boaz.

Also, if you ask a woman out at church, and she turns you down, you're done at that church when it comes to meeting someone. They all talk, and they all know you asked her out. Ask out another one a year later, and she'll remember and take offense to it because it means you see her as "second best."

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I generally appreciate your posts, but this is far off base. I met my wife at church, and know double-digits of people that I was single with at church that are now married to someone they met there. Not all churches/church experiences are the same.

Like anything, it comes down to the individuals involved. The right church with a singles ministry just happens to be the best concentration of finding someone spiritually likeminded, which is probably the most fundamentally important factor you can control for in a prospective spouse.

anybody else still have girls from high school or college that reach out every few years just to see "what the heck have you been up to?".

Its so transparent and sad.

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Burdizzo said:

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Personally, I blame line dancing.

When people at the dance halls didn't have to go out on a limb and ask someone else to dance, I knew things were going downhill. Yeah, I know we no longer live in a world of two-stepping and George Strait and that wasn't everyone's world to begin with, but it was indicative of the trend.

I miss Gramm's and The Texas Hall of Fame.

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Tell me youre my age without telling me you are my age. I'm c/o '89. You?

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Yep. That era.

People complained that Gramm's was a meat market. While true, it also provided immediate feedback. Whereas, a dating app you may go months without understanding why you're failing.

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javajaws said:

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All of us married guys over 45 that have never used dating apps should take a challenge. With our wives permission, we should have a contest to see who can get the most dates on one of these apps and check out the **** show for ourselves.

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this sounds like a late-night Cinemax movie....

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Yeah and there has been a story going around recently where a couple did exactly the above...it did not end well

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I guess I should have been clear - the challenge would be just to get the dates, not to actually go on them lol.

But I could see how even that would be asking too much from some of your wives. Mine on the other hand would probably enjoy it way too much lol.

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Yeah that's exactly what the couple I was talking about started with. It was just to see what would happen on the app. Wifey quickly realized she could bounce and go take her pick from a very large pool of candidates

My friend (who has been out of high school for about 40 years now) recently got a letter in the mail containing a 5 x 7 portrait photo from a guy she dumped in high school, with the inscription "See what you missed?"

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Hogties said:

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Whatever happened to finding a woman in the real world? Church, the gym, a bar?

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Church is the absolute worst.

The girls and women would only look for the "perfect" men because they have been raised under the delusion that God had already selected their husband and he will be "perfect for her." Often they'll use the stupid phrase "waiting for my Boaz" which really meant waiting for a rich guy. If I had a $ for every time I heard that, I'd be Boaz.

Also, if you ask a woman out at church, and she turns you down, you're done at that church when it comes to meeting someone. They all talk, and they all know you asked her out. Ask out another one a year later, and she'll remember and take offense to it because it means you see her as "second best."

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Churches that let women preach look like this ^

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I've never been to a church that had a woman preacher, and never would.

Sunday school teacher, singer, musician, children's church, sure, but never at the pulpit.

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Right...I'm sure the women's "bible studies" aren't filled with garbage from the usual high-profile female characters out there either.

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Just wait... Once over 70 if you're a man that can drive at night and still get it up you're in high demand.

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My aunt passed away a few years ago and left my uncle a widower at age 78. Single guy, still active, kids grown and married, lots of farm land. All the single ladies at his church were bringing him food every week for a year and then some.

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layup!!

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Most women with unrealistic standards aren't morbidly obese. They just don't have the looks or personality to justify the type of man they look for. And, most importantly, they look for those men to the exclusion of all others. They don't even allow for the possibility of getting with men who don't meet their predetermined metrics.

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this probably applies to the men on this thread too--in that some of yall's standards are too high and dont match who you're aiming for

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Rapier108 said:

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Hogties said:

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Whatever happened to finding a woman in the real world? Church, the gym, a bar?

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Church is the absolute worst.

The girls and women would only look for the "perfect" men because they have been raised under the delusion that God had already selected their husband and he will be "perfect for her." Often they'll use the stupid phrase "waiting for my Boaz" which really meant waiting for a rich guy. If I had a $ for every time I heard that, I'd be Boaz.

Also, if you ask a woman out at church, and she turns you down, you're done at that church when it comes to meeting someone. They all talk, and they all know you asked her out. Ask out another one a year later, and she'll remember and take offense to it because it means you see her as "second best."

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I generally appreciate your posts, but this is far off base. I met my wife at church, and know double-digits of people that I was single with at church that are now married to someone they met there. Not all churches/church experiences are the same.

Like anything, it comes down to the individuals involved. The right church with a singles ministry just happens to be the best concentration of finding someone spiritually likeminded, which is probably the most fundamentally important factor you can control for in a prospective spouse.

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I have an idea. Let's get into a protestant v catholic debate with respect to this topic.

Folks love to knock reddit, but then they end up posting a weekly thread that reads just like the reddit incel forums....

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It isn't just the women filtering for 6' well built handsome men with salaries over $150 k a year that caused him to give up. His preferred dating age range was 38-50 and he was shocked at how many emotionally unbalanced women he encountered. He told me some crazy stories.

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It was almost the same in the late 90's/ early 2000s dating women in their 20s. Now they are all grown up in the 38 to 50 yr old range with even more baggage and more unbalance.

I swear every chick I dated back then had had at least 1 abortion, or had a kid already, and had at least 1 abusive ex they were still hung up on that treated them like dirt for years. And, seemed like they all came from crazy broken homes. I felt like when I met my wife who was like a church girl with good morals and values and a great personality and family it was a miracle, like she was a unicorn.

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wait you think your wife didn't' have a past ? She went to university in the USA, I got some bad news for you.

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I know she had a past, but she had only been with like 3 other dudes, and she wasn't still hung up on any of them, and had no baggage from previous BS...Not saying she's perfect, just saying she was like what seemed to be the first normal, stable, well grounded, well driven, and goal oriented woman I ever dated. And, I dated a lot of them in my late teens and 20's. I probably went through at least 35 to 40 women, but only like 5 that I had serious relationships with. I knew I had something unique with her is all I'm saying.

I felt like NEO in this video when I met her...LOL!