Yeah this is why we've started going to Sonoma. There's a few places in Napa that we still will go back to for their awesome wines and reasonable tasting prices (Paloma, BV, Buehler, Benessere) but we've found we like Sonoma wines just as much and there's a lot more fun variety of good wines (not just a Cab/Sauv Blanc/Chard like everything is in Napa). For example the great Italian varietals you can try at places like DaVero or Spanish stuff at Marimar.
We were gifted a tasting at Quintessa when we got engaged and were shocked at how they didn't even try to push their club. "If you don't sign up, there's 5 people in line who will take your place" was the attitude. The wine was decent but couldn't even buy a bottle or two, had to get 3 of each (and that minimum included their white wine, which was also quite good. You couldn't mix and match). Really turned us off.
Meanwhile the manager of the Krupp Bros tasting room in downtown Napa will comp your tasting if you buy a couple bottles and he gives quite generous pours in their flight. I can see why the traditional model is going by the wayside out that way. They've priced themselves out of most of the population's budget.
Reach out to Thompson31Fifty in Russian River Valley. They're Aggies and take great care of any Ags that come their way. Make great Chard and Pinot. Also, the pairing at the Mayo Family Reserve Room was spectacular when we went. Much more of a lunch sized meal than the standard light bites pairings that most wineries out that way do, and the wines were great!
Lastly, one of our new favorites is Sonocaia. Very small family operation but made us feel like we were discovering how Napa was back in the 70s/80s.