Principal Uncertainty said:
So, you bought a smaller starter home and then after a few years decided to upgrade?
That brings up a rare piece of advice I once heard that would put Ramsey in the ICU; "Buy as much house as you can afford for your first home" The thought being that your tastes will grow, your stuff will grow, your family will grow and your income will grow, so that first home will look too small and you'll be trying to make that flip sooner than you realize. So, get that extra bedroom and 3rd car garage from the start and you won't feel like you have to make the move later. Obviously, this doesn't count job loss, transfer situations, divorces, etc (unexpected life changes) that might say otherwise.
So your first sentence is mostly true.
The 2nd home was definitely an upgrade, but the price inflation from 2020 to 2025 was wild and what drove us purchasing "more" than we needed. The new home wasn't much larger--maybe 200 sq ft--but it was better built and in a better zip code...but with an interest rate that was double what our first home was.
So, in that sense, it was too much home. I define too much home as more than you can comfortably afford. We could afford the mortgage...as long as a job wasn't lost, wild circumstance change, etc. So we liquidated assets to get that mortgage number down to where, even with a job loss, we're good.
Wasn't ideal, but it is what it is. We've learned, and will be a bit more prudent moving forward.
re: That rare piece of advice: I mean, buying as much as you can afford ultimately makes sense. If it doesn't put you in an untenable situation, or lead to stress about what happens if there is a catastrophe, then do it...though I'd argue buy a bit less for your first. Most people carry more crap with them and think they need more than they actual do. The amount of crap we've brought to Goodwill is insane, and we still have a ton more crap.
I will say a 3rd car garage was a non-negotiable after our first home was a 2-car.
Ultimately: Live within your means.